Omg thank you. I actually dyed it and retouched it up yesterday and it came out SO well. \( ^o^)/
If someone cheats on you they do not love you, remember that. If someone cheats on you they do not care about you as much as they say they do. If someone cheats on you it means that for a split second you were off their mind long enough for them to put another person in arms that should only be for you. If someone cheats on you, dear god, I hope you don’t go back to them because you are worth so much more than that.
"My response to the “I am not a feminist” internet phenomenon….
First of all, it’s clear you don’t know what feminism is. But I’m not going to explain it to you. You can google it. To quote an old friend, “I’m not the feminist babysitter.”
But here is what I think you should know.
You’re insulting every woman who was forcibly restrained in a jail cell with a feeding tube down her throat for your right to vote, less than 100 years ago.
You’re degrading every woman who has accessed a rape crisis center, which wouldn’t exist without the feminist movement.
You’re undermining every woman who fought to make marital rape a crime (it was legal until 1993).
You’re spitting on the legacy of every woman who fought for women to be allowed to own property (1848). For the abolition of slavery and the rise of the labor union. For the right to divorce. For women to be allowed to have access to birth control (Comstock laws). For middle and upper class women to be allowed to work outside the home (poor women have always worked outside the home). To make domestic violence a crime in the US (It is very much legal in many parts of the world). To make workplace sexual harassment a crime.
In short, you know not what you speak of. You reap the rewards of these women’s sacrifices every day of your life. When you grin with your cutsey sign about how you’re not a feminist, you ignorantly spit on the sacred struggle of the past 200 years. You bite the hand that has fed you freedom, safety, and a voice.
In short, kiss my ass, you ignorant little jerks.”❞
Yeah, it is.
To the second question - no, that is not what I mean.
Honestly - each and every person defines their own virginity. They cannot define anyone else’s virginity. I’ve been sexually active with a previous partner a few years ago, but I do not consider myself a virgin or a non-virgin. Because I don’t believe in the concept. :)
But that doesn’t mean I can tell someone not to believe in it. ^^ What I’d like to hope - is that those who believe in it actually understand these kind of facts, and not the false-fed crap they are given.
In my own research, virginity is very sexist and heteronormative. The foundation of virginity is literally based on heteronormative values. People tend to commonly believe virginity is “lost” when a penis or a penetrating object goes into a vagina. There’s also a ton of other arguments I can give on the topic, because I just think it’s ridiculous how we believe we lose something or lose “purity.” If anything, I just think it’s an entirely psychological and mental concept. From the moment we’re a child, we are usually following this kind of thinking without questioning it. Isn’t it just WEIRD how most people think that though???? I think it is.
Here’s an important article: [ x ]
I’d like to add a few quotes:
- "Virginity isn’t inherently a big deal, but we make it out to be by putting a lot of value on it and giving people the expectation that it should be ‘special’.”
- " ‘Traditionally’ it means penis penetrating a vagina, for women, it usually means the breaking of a hymen. The hymen shouldn’t break anyway… it stretches and might tear slightly. You have lost your virginity when you feel you have lost your virginity. If you are a lesbian whose first is a woman, and you consider yourself not a virgin, that’s fine. If for example, penetration has been attempted too painful to continue, or you have been raped, and you would rather not consider that as losing your virginity, this should also be acceptable.”
- "We’ve made sex to be something very important that involves a long list of social rules and regulations, first time sex is made out to be a big, life changing event that we split people who have and haven’t done it into two separate categories - virgin and non-virgin. There is so many different things that we do that are important in life, but we don’t feel the need to have separate categories for all of them. We don’t even have a word for people who have been in love and people who haven’t been in love, which is arguably more important. The concept of virginity itself makes it so much more difficult for people either to enjoy sex just for sex when they want to, or accept that it’s just one of the many things they haven’t done yet and there’s no point worrying about it."